I have personally never really believed in hooking up. That being said, it's not like I have not hooked up in the past, but it was never something I sought out specifically wanting. My first relationship, I mean legit relationship, started my freshman year of college and lasted 2.5 years. I am a big fan of monogamy. When I am with that person, I am with only them. I can understand women and girls 16-25 really liking the appel of hooking up. Hell, it's no string attached pleasure with the plus of not getting emotionally attached and hurt. But, as many studies show, When you are physically intimate with someone, you can't help but be attached to them. My first time was with a very good friend. I trusted him and "just wanted to get it over with" even though we were never romantically involved, I'll always have a fondness for him. Good or bad, hooking up experiences change women. My big question is this: If you are college age and just have fuck buddies, are not monogamous, How do you expect to have a committed exclusive emotionally involved relationship in the future? If you are so accustomed to being emotionally detached with the person you are intimate with, How can you be expected to have a traditional healthy relationship? Not saying that all women who hook up even want a legit relationship, but most, at some point in the future do.
Another big issue I find with today's society, is there is almost a social stigma of being in a committed relationship at a younger age (ie pre-25) . When I was in college, at a small liberal arts women's college, I often felt ostracized by most of my peers. Because, they would be spending Friday and Saturday nights at frat parties, and I'd be spending mine spending catch up time with my boyfriend, who I only saw on weekends. It almost put a rift between me and my friends since I did not have the same mentality as most girls my age.
Now, being 22, other women at catching up. I have a score of friends engaged, but then again, here in Missouri, it's a bit of the norm. in a large city, or with my friends in Cali, not so much.
